Trauma-Informed & Attachment Focused Couples therapy
Reconnect, Heal, Strengthen Your Bond
Are you longing to feel close to your partner again?
​Most couples who come to see me have tried therapy before and are starting to lose hope that things can change. They care deeply about their relationship but the tension, escalated arguments, and emotional distance have worn them down.
Both partners usually want the same thing: to feel heard, valued, and emotionally safe. The problem is that they go about it in very different ways. One partner may push hard to resolve issues, while the other becomes overwhelmed and shuts down. This creates a painful cycle where both people end up feeling alone, misunderstood, and disconnected.
As a trauma-informed, attachment-focused therapist, I help couples understand what is happening beneath the conflict so they can stop fighting against each other and begin feeling emotionally safe together again.
This emotional distance often shows up as:
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The same arguments repeating over and over
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Feeling resentful, unseen, or misunderstood
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Small issues turning into big emotional reactions
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Shutting down or going silent to avoid conflict
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Having old wounds and past pain resurface
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Considering separation or divorce as a way to escape the pain
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Spending more time avoiding each other and focusing on children, work, or distractions
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Individual struggles with anxiety, depression, or burnout
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Functioning well on the outside, but feeling disconnected or overwhelmed at home
Why trauma-informed therapy matters
​Most couples focus on the content of their arguments what was said, who started it, or what needs to change. But underneath those surface issues, what actually drives these conflicts is unmet attachment needs.
Each partner has their own way of dealing with conflict and fighting for their unmet needs., shaped by past experiences. These strategies may protect each person individually, but they can unintentionally damage the connection between you. In our work together, I help you understand these patterns and find a balance that honors both of your needs while strengthening your relationship.
When couples get to a place to hear each other in a non-threatening way and understand each other, blame drops and compassion grows and emotionally safety gets restored. Even if you’ve tried therapy before, this approach helps uncover patterns that traditional therapy often misses, creating real change in the way you connect.
How I Work With Couples
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Trauma-informed care
Somatically
We go beyond traditional talk therapy by working with:​
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Emotions and deeper stress-related responses
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Patterns of connection and disconnection
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Creating rhythms and supports that allow your relationship to thrive
In sessions, we slow things down so each partner can:
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Understand their own reactions
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Understand how they trigger their partner
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Feel safer expressing vulnerability
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Learn how to stay present during conflict
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Reconnect emotionally
This approach allows couples to expand their capacity to move from defensiveness and distance to understanding, closeness, and trust, creating lasting transformation in the relationship.
Couples I Commonly Work With
I specialize in working with couples who:
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Are navigating early parenting or family stress
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Feel emotionally disconnected or misunderstood
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Have had past emotional issues that never fully got addressed
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Are dealing with betrayal, resentment, or loss of trust
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Have one partner who shuts down and another who feels alone
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Want to break unhealthy relationship patterns and improve their communication
Many of the couples I work with deeply want their relationship to succeed, even when it doesn’t look that way in the middle of conflict.
What Couples Gain From Couples Therapy
Couples therapy isn’t just about stopping arguments, it’s about creating a relationship that feels emotionally safe, supportive, and deeply connected.
Couples who engage in therapy often:
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Become less reactive and more understanding with one another
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Feel heard and valued
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Improve intimacy and trust
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Gain a stronger ability to handle stress and stressors together
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Develop a deeper sense of “we’re in this together and we can get through this
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Learn practical strategies to repair and rebuild trust after conflict or past wounds
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Increase emotional attunement so disagreements feel less threatening and more constructive
Investment In Your Relationship
I am experienced in helping couples explore the deeper emotional and relational roots of their struggles. My work goes beyond communication tips or tools and focuses on the attachment longings and protective patterns that drive conflict and emotional distance.
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Typically, couples commit to weekly or biweekly sessions for several months. By attending therapy consistently, we are able to get to the root of what’s happening between you and create the space for meaningful and lasting change, not just temporary relief. Couples therapy is a meaningful investment in the health and longevity of your relationship that positively influences all areas of your life.
I warmly welcome all couples, regardless of race, ethnicity, gender identity, or sexual orientation. My practice is an inclusive space where every relationship is valued, supported and given the care it deserves.
Ready to Reconnect?
If you and your partner are ready to create a relationship that feels more secure, connected, and emotionally safe, I invite you to schedule your first session.
Each session is designed to help you uncover patterns, navigate conflict, and rebuild trust, so that your relationship can move from distance and defensiveness to understanding and closeness.
Investing in your relationship is one of the most meaningful decisions you can make — it positively impacts your emotional life, your family, and your long-term connection.
Sessions are $275 for couples. This work is tailored specifically to your relationship, trauma-informed, and focused on lasting transformation.
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